Today marks our second month of being married. A friend from far away sent us her greetings early this morning and asked something which inspired me to write this post.
Her question: Is your marriage everything you hoped it would be, so far?
I could have said ‘yes‘ but that would be a lie. Our marriage is not everything we thought it would be. I hoped it would be perfect, but we know there is no such thing as perfect marriage. I hoped it would all be just happiness, but that is impossible.
Marriage is not something you can filter like what you see on Instagram and Facebook.
In two months, we had our own share of misunderstandings. We’ve been through ups and downs, too. It’s not always those #sweetness overloads that you see on social media, we had our dark days, too. Do we fight? Yes, we do. We fight over little things — from where and what to eat, what TV channel to watch, to who used up all the lives in my Candy Crush. In the end of the day, before we go to sleep… we just find ourselves laughing about our petty fights. But you see, that is what makes US happy. That is what makes us stronger and love each other more.
Marriage is an adventure. It is not every day a well-paved road. There are bumpy roads. It is not every day a sunny one. There are storms you have to face. But as long as you have each other, as long as you are both willing to take risks, you can surpass them. There is no mountain too high and no ocean too deep for two people who hold hand and conquer them together.
Perhaps it’s too early to tell how our life have been as a couple. Some people said the first year is of course sweet and a happy one. And we have to wait until the fifth year before we conclude how strong our love is. My response would be… “I’m ready for that. I’ll see you on that day!” 😀